I was keeping myself from saying this. Since I have seen plenty of fucked up Yuri too. But I see people here hold Yuri to a pedestal.
I see both Genres as the same. They both have their good and bad.
For me, some Yuri are so unrealistic. We, women, are fucking shit storms to deal with. Quoting my bisexual female friend. And I am self-aware I am difficult at times. But fuck it, I feel like I am in the right. Emotions can be blinding.
Most men are straightforward, while women always come from the damn angle. Ladies, you know we do this. So when I see two girls being all understanding of one another all the time. All communication all the time. Heck, that is a fantasy relationship.
But heck, we are in fiction, right? I love my realism in stories. So, I tend to avoid full fluff stories.
BL usually has a rapey vibe, but that has to do more with the omega verse. Everyone is assaulting someone there. Including the Yuri. This is from what I have seen, and I read too much BL/Yaoi.
However, Yaoi and Yuri have plenty of assaults, too. We know what we see in Yaoi, but in Yuri, they paint them as cute moments. Boob grabs, kisses are the usual culprits. But heck, even unwanted penetration happens in Yuri too. Anything going into the body is penetration. Even with toys.
BL usually has no sex, same with GL. Yuri and Yaoi, on the other hand, are sex-driven. Both are over-sexualized themes.
Men just read what they like. Let it be GL/Yuri or BL/Yaoi.
I prefer Yaoi/BL, why? Fewer boobs and vulva being thrown at my face. I am a simple gal for things like that.