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Lol look at what this thread has become.
Well, the core is still there. The association of many girls to one guy. The definition still fits.Sure but, like I said, it's still closer to traditional harems than the majority of harems we see. The definition has evolved. If we're going to call anime harems "harems," then we might as well be calling "poly-harems" the same as well. Also, let's be real here. Take one guy - the main character. Give him a bunch of waifus. Make his waifus all gay for each other as well. Market it as a harem. I promise you that the vast majority of people specifically looking for harems are going to be fine with it and consider it a harem. Me and several other successful authors are already doing this exact thing and it has never posed a problem or caused any controversy regarding whether they're really harems or not. If anything, it would be hard to find an original-English harem that doesn't make the women at least slightly gay for each other. It's just usually played for the male fantasy of hot lesbians being hot lesbians rather than women who have deeper feelings for each other.
The word does take new meanings and many words are like that. Still, there are cases where the definition is stretched too far. Just because some people call it harem doesn't make it a harem.But again, if we want to go by the "true" definition of harem or whatever, then none of those are harems. 99% of what we call harems aren't actually harems. This entire thread isn't actually about harems. I am strictly speaking to what the term "harem" has evolved into as a genre, and that is basically anything where the main character has multiple love interests interested in them. Even if you take the traditional love triangle and put it in front of people who are used to seeing "harem" referenced, they're probably going to call it a harem instead of just a love triangle.
I don't think it's an unpopular opinion thoughSo, I have an unpopular opinion.
I hate harems.
Well, the core is still there. The association of many girls to one guy. The definition still fits.
However, more that one guy and the definition doesn't fit anymore. Not a harem.
Yeah, I'll agree to this. I wouldn't consider a love triangle to be a harem either. Harems, to me, have to have at least 3+ love interests at once. Even so, I've seen plenty of people refer to anime/manga with love triangles as harems. While I might not agree to that, I will agree with calling anything with 3+ love interests who are interested in the main character a harem.The word does take new meanings and many words are like that. Still, there are cases where the definition is stretched too far. Just because some people call it harem doesn't make it a harem.
So, I have an unpopular opinion.
I hate harems.
The way I see it, there are a few different ways that harems can play out.
1. The main character is completely and absurdly dense, to the point where all the women in the harem fall in love with him only for him to be like 'Love? What is that? I've never heard of that before.' This is bad for very obvious reasons. It's painful to watch, and nobody gets any satisfaction in the end.
2. The main character is a complete perv and/or wants to mess around with all the women who are in love with him. Why is it, that in so much fiction, the women in a harem continuously love the man despite the fact that he is a complete scumbag, and doesn't even choose one to be with but rather puts off the decision while being with whoever is with him at the moment?
There is one series which I believe was a satirical take on this type of harem which many have probably heard of, an anime called 'school days'.
(Spoiler warning to anyone who intends to watch this, but imma be honest I wouldn't recommend watching as it will hurt your brain and your heart.)
Basically, the mc is exactly how it is described here, but the girls in this series react somewhat realistically.
Instead of clinging to him and never getting angry or depressed, the mc does end up severely hurting the people who are in love with him as he does what he wants and fails to choose a single one to be with. It's painful to watch, but makes you ask the question 'Why in most harems do the women not get hurt ever? Why do they continue to cling to the mc, and never get truly angry at him or sad that he is being bombarded by 5 other women and their assaults?' Sometimes, the women don't even consider each other as rivals but merely only focus on the mc and nothing else. It's just unrealistic, and so tailored towards what people want their own personal little world to be like. They want to be surrounded by women who will do their every beck and call, and not question the other 6 women who are doing the exact same thing. Preposterous.
3. The main character actually chooses one of the many women among the harem, hurting the ones who lost but ending up with the one who won.
This is the one that I hate the least, out of all harems, but it begs the question- why was this a harem in the first place? Just to hurt these other characters, or temporarily please the viewers at seeing the mc be ogled by many women before finally settling on one of them? Idk.
Well, my point is that harems are just painful to watch. The only reason people enjoy them is because perhaps they want to imagine themselves with a harem, but this is just.... wrong. Instead, I would much rather prefer the mc to have a single, focused love interest, or to not have one at all (Particularly in series where romance is not the focus).
This is just a rant. I'm sure many disagree with me, and I will be getting essays about the 'artistic meaning' and 'thought out character building' that composes a harem. Just, no.
This post is not referring to series which are dramas. Those are of their own genre, and completely focused on the drama itself- so I understand that. But, how many isekais do we see where the mc is surrounded by multiple women in love with him? More importantly, how many do we see that aren't like this? Very few. Why is this? It's clearly because there is a demand for it. People want it. People love it. But I, do not.
Well yeah. That is the primary appeal of harem. Break it and its gone.The real problem is that as soon as there's another guy involved, everybody who's reading it for a male fantasy where they expect multiple women to love one guy and each other will get upset and leave seething reviews that those women are also capable of liking another guy, or that the MC is bisexual instead of heterosexual. Even if the new guy involved isn't even interested in the other girls and only loves the main guy. I would argue that they don't care about the fact that it might be breaking the technical definition so much as they care that it doesn't appeal to their heterosexual fantasy any longer.
Probably because it still "kinda" fits though kinda stretched. Essentially generalizing the core concept. Instead of many girls to one guy, it is generalized to many to one.That aside, I have a lot more bisexual/pansexual readers than I ever could have expected to get, and they frequently discuss and bring up other series that have "harems" where there are multiple different genders among the harem members. Some of them have been pretty popular marketed-as-harem stories on Amazon, too. Never any problem with calling them harem. Just people in reviews who sometimes complain when non-straight guys exist.
Agree.Yeah, I'll agree to this. I wouldn't consider a love triangle to be a harem either. Harems, to me, have to have at least 3+ love interests at once. Even so, I've seen plenty of people refer to anime/manga with love triangles as harems. While I might not agree to that, I will agree with calling anything with 3+ love interests who are interested in the main character a harem.
Maybe, the word Harem might become generalized like how we use the word Man. Man means male human (I'm a man!) and Woman means a female human (I feel like woman!), but Man is also used as a general term synonymous to Human (Man's best friend.).
So, I have an unpopular opinion.
I hate harems.
The way I see it, there are a few different ways that harems can play out.
1. The main character is completely and absurdly dense, to the point where all the women in the harem fall in love with him only for him to be like 'Love? What is that? I've never heard of that before.' This is bad for very obvious reasons. It's painful to watch, and nobody gets any satisfaction in the end.
2. The main character is a complete perv and/or wants to mess around with all the women who are in love with him. Why is it, that in so much fiction, the women in a harem continuously love the man despite the fact that he is a complete scumbag, and doesn't even choose one to be with but rather puts off the decision while being with whoever is with him at the moment?
There is one series which I believe was a satirical take on this type of harem which many have probably heard of, an anime called 'school days'.
(Spoiler warning to anyone who intends to watch this, but imma be honest I wouldn't recommend watching as it will hurt your brain and your heart.)
Basically, the mc is exactly how it is described here, but the girls in this series react somewhat realistically.
Instead of clinging to him and never getting angry or depressed, the mc does end up severely hurting the people who are in love with him as he does what he wants and fails to choose a single one to be with. It's painful to watch, but makes you ask the question 'Why in most harems do the women not get hurt ever? Why do they continue to cling to the mc, and never get truly angry at him or sad that he is being bombarded by 5 other women and their assaults?' Sometimes, the women don't even consider each other as rivals but merely only focus on the mc and nothing else. It's just unrealistic, and so tailored towards what people want their own personal little world to be like. They want to be surrounded by women who will do their every beck and call, and not question the other 6 women who are doing the exact same thing. Preposterous.
3. The main character actually chooses one of the many women among the harem, hurting the ones who lost but ending up with the one who won.
This is the one that I hate the least, out of all harems, but it begs the question- why was this a harem in the first place? Just to hurt these other characters, or temporarily please the viewers at seeing the mc be ogled by many women before finally settling on one of them? Idk.
Well, my point is that harems are just painful to watch. The only reason people enjoy them is because perhaps they want to imagine themselves with a harem, but this is just.... wrong. Instead, I would much rather prefer the mc to have a single, focused love interest, or to not have one at all (Particularly in series where romance is not the focus).
This is just a rant. I'm sure many disagree with me, and I will be getting essays about the 'artistic meaning' and 'thought out character building' that composes a harem. Just, no.
This post is not referring to series which are dramas. Those are of their own genre, and completely focused on the drama itself- so I understand that. But, how many isekais do we see where the mc is surrounded by multiple women in love with him? More importantly, how many do we see that aren't like this? Very few. Why is this? It's clearly because there is a demand for it. People want it. People love it. But I, do not.
Except money can also buy big dickBut...my credit...
Except money can also buy big dick
These are more agreeable, but I would not call them harems.
It's simply a sexually open society where everyone can bone whoever they want.
I think it's called an un-unpopular opinion.I don't think it's an unpopular opinion though
Words change meaning over time. "Gay" used to just mean happy and not homosexual, after all. That's kind of what happened to harem - its meaning evolved in a society where the old style of harems no longer exist.However, more that one guy and the definition doesn't fit anymore. Not a harem.
Of course, neither of them are "real" harems. My point, though, is that they're what make up 99% of modern "harems." The defintion of harem as a genre has evolved. However, if I was forced to pick which one of those was closer to the "real" definition of harem, I would choose the latter.
Sure but, like I said, it's still closer to traditional harems than the majority of harems we see. The definition has evolved. If we're going to call anime harems "harems," then we might as well be calling "poly-harems" the same as well. Also, let's be real here. Take one guy - the main character. Give him a bunch of waifus. Make his waifus all gay for each other as well. Market it as a harem. I promise you that the vast majority of people specifically looking for harems are going to be fine with it and consider it a harem. Me and several other successful authors are already doing this exact thing and it has never posed a problem or caused any controversy regarding whether they're really harems or not. If anything, it would be hard to find an original-English harem that doesn't make the women at least slightly gay for each other. It's just usually played for the male fantasy of hot lesbians being hot lesbians rather than women who have deeper feelings for each other.
But again, if we want to go by the "true" definition of harem or whatever, then none of those are harems. 99% of what we call harems aren't actually harems. This entire thread isn't actually about harems. I am strictly speaking to what the term "harem" has evolved into as a genre, and that is basically anything where the main character has multiple love interests interested in them. Even if you take the traditional love triangle and put it in front of people who are used to seeing "harem" referenced, they're probably going to call it a harem instead of just a love triangle.
Yes.Words change meaning over time. "Gay" used to just mean happy and not homosexual, after all. That's kind of what happened to harem - its meaning evolved in a society where the old style of harems no longer exist.
I feel making them be attracted to each other would ruin the wish-fulfillment aspect of cute/hot girls that only want your attention, not anybody else.
I had no idea that this is an unpopular opinon. I'd heard of this trope, but assumed it was little more than fetish material.So, I have an unpopular opinion.
I hate harems.
The way I see it, there are a few different ways that harems can play out.
1. The main character is completely and absurdly dense, to the point where all the women in the harem fall in love with him only for him to be like 'Love? What is that? I've never heard of that before.' This is bad for very obvious reasons. It's painful to watch, and nobody gets any satisfaction in the end.
2. The main character is a complete perv and/or wants to mess around with all the women who are in love with him. Why is it, that in so much fiction, the women in a harem continuously love the man despite the fact that he is a complete scumbag, and doesn't even choose one to be with but rather puts off the decision while being with whoever is with him at the moment?
There is one series which I believe was a satirical take on this type of harem which many have probably heard of, an anime called 'school days'.
(Spoiler warning to anyone who intends to watch this, but imma be honest I wouldn't recommend watching as it will hurt your brain and your heart.)
Basically, the mc is exactly how it is described here, but the girls in this series react somewhat realistically.
Instead of clinging to him and never getting angry or depressed, the mc does end up severely hurting the people who are in love with him as he does what he wants and fails to choose a single one to be with. It's painful to watch, but makes you ask the question 'Why in most harems do the women not get hurt ever? Why do they continue to cling to the mc, and never get truly angry at him or sad that he is being bombarded by 5 other women and their assaults?' Sometimes, the women don't even consider each other as rivals but merely only focus on the mc and nothing else. It's just unrealistic, and so tailored towards what people want their own personal little world to be like. They want to be surrounded by women who will do their every beck and call, and not question the other 6 women who are doing the exact same thing. Preposterous.
3. The main character actually chooses one of the many women among the harem, hurting the ones who lost but ending up with the one who won.
This is the one that I hate the least, out of all harems, but it begs the question- why was this a harem in the first place? Just to hurt these other characters, or temporarily please the viewers at seeing the mc be ogled by many women before finally settling on one of them? Idk.
Well, my point is that harems are just painful to watch. The only reason people enjoy them is because perhaps they want to imagine themselves with a harem, but this is just.... wrong. Instead, I would much rather prefer the mc to have a single, focused love interest, or to not have one at all (Particularly in series where romance is not the focus).
This is just a rant. I'm sure many disagree with me, and I will be getting essays about the 'artistic meaning' and 'thought out character building' that composes a harem. Just, no.
This post is not referring to series which are dramas. Those are of their own genre, and completely focused on the drama itself- so I understand that. But, how many isekais do we see where the mc is surrounded by multiple women in love with him? More importantly, how many do we see that aren't like this? Very few. Why is this? It's clearly because there is a demand for it. People want it. People love it. But I, do not.