EDIT: IDGAF about what the personality is, anyone who lets cunts get away with their cunt behaviour is a pathetic lil cuck lad. Cunts rarely give a fuck about what they do and all letting them go means is they will continue to make more victims. All cuz you chose to be the "bigger person" as if that doesnt make you directly responsible for whatever suffering they later cause other people.
Have you ever suffered horror?
I'm not talking about something bad happened to you, I'm talking about something terrible that lasted for months, maybe even years. If you haven't, then this isn't a topic for you. The original post is about someone suffering for years. Enduring humiliation, torture, and pain where nobody cared. I went through that for over a decade. So listen to someone who has seen the worst side of humanity.
If you survive, it does something to you. You become hard. You develop a sense of pain and suffering that isn't normal. Some pain you simply don't even notice, and others you become far too sensitive to. What's worse, is you might develop a desire to make life 'fair'.
Don't do that. Don't ever try to make life 'fair'.
People don't understand what that means. They don't really understand the concept. What a 'fair' world would be. I can make the world fair right now, for anyone. It's simple. Here we go.
YOU HAD IT COMING.
Justice. Fairness. Balance. As if any human being alive actually knows what that really is. I think the person who came closest was Douglas Adams. Why? Because the answer to life, the universe, and everything was 42.
Do you have any idea what that means if it was true? It means if we could somehow change everything into a mathematical equation and add everything up, the universe had a positive balance of 42. Doesn't matter what the unit of measurement was, it was a positive balance. That's awesome.
You want the universe to add up to Zero.
That's what fair is. That's what justice is. It is adding up the universe to Zero. Well, good on you. But did you ever think of THE OTHER SIDE OF THE EQUATION?
I'm an atheist, but let's pretend there is a heaven.
Heaven is the ultimate reward, right? Eternal Bliss. So. Tell me. If I was to set up a scale where I put INFINITE HAPPINESS on one side, and you on the other, how... will you ever get into heaven? How would ANYONE get into heaven?
This is why, if you accept the bible, that God lets in anyone who just asks for forgiveness. Hitler to Mother Teresa. Just ask to be forgiven, and you get let in. Why? BECAUSE NOBODY WOULD EVER QUALIFY OTHERWISE. How, could you EVER earn your way into heaven? How could you EVER balance that scale?
Now, does heaven exist? Doesn't matter. The point is, this is the other side of this argument. People get fixated on revenge, but they kinda forget that there is a mirror and opposite version of this where the question is, has PERSON X earned happiness?
Have YOU, earned happiness?
If we brought out Deep Thought and he evaluated your life, is your score positive or negative? Are you TOO HAPPY? If we want life to be fair, and just, and BALANCED... don't we have to drag you down to where your only as happy as you earned?
Most people when they say they want justice or fairness, or what have you, is actually just talking about revenge. You don't want it to be fair, you want to hurt someone. Well, that's fine, for normal shit. But what if you had the shit beaten out of you, on average about once a week for a decade. What if, those torturing you would never be punished by the law, BECAUSE THEY WERE THE LAW?
How much pain and suffering do you inflict until the ledger is balanced? Who do you hurt? Who is fair game? If they love someone, can I hurt who they love just to get at them?
I got my revenge... all except one. He died before I could get to him. So I punished others he cared about. And I kept punishing. I made MONEY causing others to suffer. I got PAID to torture people. I made a SCIENCE OUT OF REVENGE. And When I ran out of targets, found people who LOOKED like they MIGHT in the future do something worthy of revenge. And after a while, I gave up the pretense and I just tortured anyone who I could get my hands on just because I fuckin' hated everyone.
AndI did horrible things. Things you can even imagine. I never broke the law, but I didn't have to. I made thousands suffer and laughed. I would focus on one person to torture and spend years for no other reason then because I was angry and PEOPLE NEEDED TO SUFFER.
Tell me, how would you react if someone who spent two yers hounding you found a way to dig up your dead mother and repo the jewelry from her corpse to pay for your "debts".
After all... YOU OWED THE MONEY. I'm just balancing the BOOKS. I'm the one who is being JUST HERE. I'M THE GOOD GUY! I'M THE ONE FOLLOWING THE LAW! I NEVER LIE! I ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH! I AM THE HERO! DO YOU FUCKIN' HEAR ME???
YOU.
HAVE.
IT.
COMING.
...
heh.
They had it coming.
They always had it coming.
Because nobody is pure. Nobody is just. Everyone has flaws. No one's books are balanced. Let me have access to Lexus Nexus, your CBR, and a good old fashioned search on Google and I promise you, I'll find some reason to torture you. I'll justify destroying you but the truth is, the reason isn't justice, it's just pain.
The best thing I ever did was let it go.
Should you always turn the cheek? No. But we are not talking about some minor bit of pain. We are talking about a person who has endured suffering that would destroy most people. We are talking about incalculable amounts of 'injustice' here. This is a different scale. This is MUCH different. You have no idea what happens to you when you actually try to balance those scales.
I have committed so much evil, in the pursuit of justice, that if there is an afterlife, I know there is a special place in Hell for me.
I regret it. I wish I could take it back. I wish I could take it ALL BACK. How much happier and better the world would be if the MILLIONS of lives that I harmed, the thousands of lives I destroyed, the suffering that I caused was gone? Do you remember the Real Estate Crash of 2008-9?
My bad.
No. Seriously. I'd take an hour to explain, but I did things knowing full well how much harm it would cause.
The NINJA Loan. No Income, No Job or Asset.
We could close in three days.
Once we started selling NINJA loans, everyone had to. They needed to just to keep up with us. Do... you have any idea how toxic these loans were? And we then turned around and sold them to China. Who turned around and sold them to India. Who turned around and sold them right back to us.
And of all the terrible things I've done, this is the easiest to explain. I've done... far worse. Why? To punish people. I didn't give a FUCK how many other people who get hurt in the process, as long as those who 'WRONGED ME' were PUNISHED.
That's the other part of this...
Every person you punish, someone cares about them. So no matter how pure your intentions, or how careful you land your "punishment", you will always harm someone else unintentionally. At first, it might bother you. You might try to limit the fall out, but as you become consumed with the sheer PLEASURE of destroying someone, trust me. Dopamine Addiction... mmm... it's a hell of a drug. Addiction to POWER? Nothing like it. Nothing at all. I still remember spending months arranging to dig up that man's dead mother and I SENT HIM A BILL FOR THE BACKHOE.
When he called into the office... Mmm... so sweet. His voice was like a little girl. He was SHRIEKING. He was going to come kill me. And you know what I said?
"Bring your check book because you still owe me over seven hundred dollars."
I was so glad I had the call recorded, so I could listen to him destroy his own phone. I'm sure of it. Everyone in the office listened to the tape and we are fairly sure he threw his cell phone on the ground and stomped it to pieces. Oh... everyone in the office laughed for DAYS over that call. Mmm...
Just thinking back about it, I still get a 'high'.
Sometimes, I get afraid. Someone I care about gets 'wronged' and I feel myself falling back into the old ways. I start planning and calculating exactly the many, many ways I could destroy someone. It's so hard to keep myself in check.
You know what I want now?
I want life to be unfair. For everyone. In their favor.
I want you to have a wonderful life, even if you didn't earn it. I hope all the people I wronged recover and have happy lives. I hope the people who stomped on me, who beat me into a coma, who tortured me, who made me wish for death on more than one occasion... I hope they are happy too.
A world... that is 'fair". What a horrible world that would be. A world where the answer to life, the universe and everything is ZERO? The horror. The Sheer HORROR.
Do I think there should be no punishments? No. Clearly that is foolish. But Society should decide that, not a single individual. The burden on a human to do that sort of thing, when they suffer as much as the girl in the original post? No. That is just as bad as what happened to her.
The best choice for someone like her is to make peace with what happened and live a happy life as best she can from that point forward. If she wants "revenge", the best revenge is to explain what terrible things happened to you, perhaps write it out, send it to those who tortured you, then next speak to them again. Cast them out. Do not seek vengeance, or even an apology. When it is a wrong of this scale, it won't make a difference.
No. Let them live with the knowledge of what they have done and know that nothing they can do will ever balance the books. They can never be forgiven. They can never make up for what they have done. And they have two choices. Suffer, or move on.
Karma doesn't exist. I believe this.
There are no scales of justice. The good in your live is not weighed against the bad. Anything good you do does not cancel out the bad. You have a pile of Evil and a Pile of Good. They exist at the same time. One does not justify or excuse the other.
Instead of focusing on this, focus on the future. From this point on, I will be good. I will make the world a better place. I will do what I think is right and help others. Maybe, if I am lucky, I will find someone who is suffering like me, and I will be able to help them.
I have done many good things.
I have saved many lives. I have talked people off roofs, kept them from killing themselves and others. I have developed treatments for untreatable diseases. I have inspired people. I have been called a Hero.
A hero is something someone else calls you. It is never something you call yourself. I do not feel like a hero, but there is more than one person who calls me such. People who are eternally grateful what what I have done.
I do not do good deeds to balance the scales. I do not help others because it makes up for what I have done. I cannot fix nor correct, nor PAY for what I have done and NO ONE will ever come for me to punish me. I have escaped punishment.
I help others because there is no justice. I help others because life is not fair, and this is a GOOD THING. If life was fair, then everything I do is futile. but if life is UNFAIR, I can help someone to be happy...
Even if they don't deserve it.
...
If your claim to punish someone is in the name of justice, then are you prepared to suffer if life has rewarded you too much?
Being TOO HAPPY is also, unfair.
That's the problem. Everyone wants punishment when life is unfair, but they forget that if they truly wanted life to be fair, then they would have to SUFFER when they have unearned Happiness.
So which is it? You can't have both.
Life is fair and everyone is punished for their crimes, and suffers when they are too happy.
Or life is unfair, and we can CHEAT. We can make a world where everyone is happy, even if they have not earned it.
I want an unfair world because only an unfair world has hope.
So...
What sort of world do you want to live in?
