ForestDweller
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Assuming, of course, you have girls that have a crush on him but not ending up in a relationship with him.
Assuming, of course, you have girls that have a crush on him but not ending up in a relationship with him.
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Part of always reminding my readers that the world he fell into isn't Earth are his relationships with some of the ladies he gets to meet, which is part of that place's culture. Yep, I'm going for the poly end.
A lot of times, I just know which ones are going to end up with him before writing. A lot of times, the girls have a different dynamic so that they have a set of behaviors that can be pretty quickly associated to them. In that sense, I don't put girls with similar traits in the same harem.
Well, as for my case, I don't really intend to have him marry everyone because of readers.Same. MC can do a lot of good by marrying multiple girls.
This one needs a 'redo'. Either a youth elixir or a regression. She isn't interested in 'who' she's with, and she either needs to become comfortable with the idea that she doesn't need to get married, or find a better reason to marry than whatever is motivating her currently (I assume peer pressure/ culture).1. Lonely older woman who badly wants to marry. Has a crush on MC's father and that crush now transfers to him.
Needs a reality check. Introduce her to a snotty peasant who keeps knocking her off her feet (thus proving MC isn't the only worthy person in the world). Preferably a girl so she won't realize it's a contestant for her affection until she falls too far in love to back off.2. A haughty princess who views MC as the only man worthy of her
This one will probably fall in love with the first person who sneezes at her. I don't like the created to be together angle, but it makes it harder for her to escape. She's the first viable candidate.3. A shy and sheltered dragoness who has been lonely for a thousand years and was created to be MC's wife
This one is viable, but not as a romantic partner. She can be an adopted daughter or sister.4. An innocent and naive adventurer with an abusive family that secretly wishes for a warm one
This one also needs a snotty peasant. But one that makes her realize that 'being worthy' isn't important. Could go either way, really. Either she gets pushed towards MC or realizes that the third party cares about her more and leaves.5. A tsundere adventurer who wishes she's strong enough to be by MC's side
Unless she falls in love with the other members of the harem, I'd hope she could leave to find personal happiness once MC finds happiness, as a sort of 'Ah, job done, now I can do my thing.'6. His brocon older sister
I think the real reason most people hate harems is that 90% them are written badly. Most harem stories have a little beta male MC who has a group of 5 women around him who he never has sex with or makes any flirtation or romantic moves ever. The readers never get the satisfaction of seeing the romances fulfilled.Well, as for my case, I don't really intend to have him marry everyone because of readers.
If anything, I'd like to do it coz it's what I want to write, harem-haters be damned. Lol
I mean, it sounds like you're already writing a big harem-- curious as to why you put the line at marriage specifically, if you want to write about it?Well, as for my case, I don't really intend to have him marry everyone because of readers.
If anything, I'd like to do it coz it's what I want to write, harem-haters be damned. Lol
Well, it's not that I don't understand where you come from, but again, this is my work, and I write because it's what I want. I'm not getting paid for my stories, and I don't want to get paid exactly for the same reason that readers would have rights to demand if I get to have them pay.I think the real reason most people hate harems is that 90% them are written badly. Most harem stories have a little beta male MC who has a group of 5 women around him who he never has sex with or makes any flirtation or romantic moves ever. The readers never get the satisfaction of seeing the romances fulfilled.
Also, they are mostly unrealistic. Unless the MC has some sort of magic, he usually cannot sexually keep up with that many women (unless he is a young man about 18-19). As men get older, they lose their sexual stamina over time - women however hit their sexual peak in their thirties. Women get horny just like men, and there are consequences for leaving them unsatisfied.
Another reason why harems annoy people is because they dont really follow the rules of human psychology. People can suspend their disbelief and enjoy things like magic, gods & science-fiction - but disregarding human psychology annoys people. An example: In most harems the MC is usually 15-18 year old boy who NEVER displays any horny behavior to the the group of beautiful women who literally throw themselves at him. This is bullshit of staggering proportions. 15 year old boys are THE HORNIEST creatures on this planet, unless they were castrated or gay, they would definitely make a move on these girls. I can entertain the possibility of a guy shooting fire out of his hands, but a young man not trying to have sex with beautiful women who are all over him? Never.
A harem protagonist done well, is a guy who is confident and actively flirts with his group of girls. He should be someone who could sexually satisfy a group of women.
Another reason that harems piss people off, is the female psychology that is done wrong. Women can be very territorial & possessive of men they like. They will get into fights with the other women around the MC (they will also be very catty when the mc isnt looking). If a female member of the harem is bisexual (or sexually open-minded) and participates in pleasing the other girls then these situations can be avoided. They might also get pissed off at the MC for being a man-whore.
A harem done well, is a guy who actively works things out with his girls, communicates well, & finds solutions to the conflicts that will most definitely pop up. Harems can be a wealth of story-telling and drama if they are done correctly.
At the end of the day, harems are usually like any other relationship - you get what you put in. But most harem protagonists put in no work whatsoever. Their women usually fall right in their lap. This is a deus-ex-machina in human form. Its like a story where the mc has to fight an evil dragon and a +2 sword of dragon slaying immediately falls out of the sky - there's no suspense, no tension, no feeling of accomplishment.
Its boring.
(got a little wordy there, but i have read so many bad harems that ive developed a complex. I actually like harems, and really enjoy when they are done well.)
My answer:I mean, it sounds like you're already writing a big harem-- curious as to why you put the line at marriage specifically, if you want to write about it?
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Part of always reminding my readers that the world he fell into isn't Earth are his relationships with some of the ladies he gets to meet, which is part of that place's culture. Yep, I'm going for the poly end.
This one needs a 'redo'. Either a youth elixir or a regression. She isn't interested in 'who' she's with, and she either needs to become comfortable with the idea that she doesn't need to get married, or find a better reason to marry than whatever is motivating her currently (I assume peer pressure/ culture).
Needs a reality check. Introduce her to a snotty peasant who keeps knocking her off her feet (thus proving MC isn't the only worthy person in the world). Preferably a girl so she won't realize it's a contestant for her affection until she falls too far in love to back off.
This one will probably fall in love with the first person who sneezes at her. I don't like the created to be together angle, but it makes it harder for her to escape. She's the first viable candidate.
This one is viable, but not as a romantic partner. She can be an adopted daughter or sister.
This one also needs a snotty peasant. But one that makes her realize that 'being worthy' isn't important. Could go either way, really. Either she gets pushed towards MC or realizes that the third party cares about her more and leaves.
Unless she falls in love with the other members of the harem, I'd hope she could leave to find personal happiness once MC finds happiness, as a sort of 'Ah, job done, now I can do my thing.'
Well, that's just a quick and dirty analysis. There's plenty of other opportunities here.
This one needs a 'redo'. Either a youth elixir or a regression. She isn't interested in 'who' she's with, and she either needs to become comfortable with the idea that she doesn't need to get married, or find a better reason to marry than whatever is motivating her currently (I assume peer pressure/ culture).
Needs a reality check. Introduce her to a snotty peasant who keeps knocking her off her feet (thus proving MC isn't the only worthy person in the world). Preferably a girl so she won't realize it's a contestant for her affection until she falls too far in love to back off.
This one will probably fall in love with the first person who sneezes at her. I don't like the created to be together angle, but it makes it harder for her to escape. She's the first viable candidate.
This one is viable, but not as a romantic partner. She can be an adopted daughter or sister.
This one also needs a snotty peasant. But one that makes her realize that 'being worthy' isn't important. Could go either way, really. Either she gets pushed towards MC or realizes that the third party cares about her more and leaves.
Unless she falls in love with the other members of the harem, I'd hope she could leave to find personal happiness once MC finds happiness, as a sort of 'Ah, job done, now I can do my thing.'
I'm puzzled as to why people keep saying harems are impossible.