She is engaged to her fiancé (who she has been in a relationship with for ~10 years)
That's a long time for nothing to be resolved! If it's truly that hard for her to get a job then it makes me wonder what poor country she lives in.
WORK ON YOUR GODDAMN RELATIONSHIP.
One would have thought she had the chance over the past 10 years. XD
So...i would tell her to look for a job BEFORE leaving him. Do some prep work ...
If you are gonna leave a person you depend on financially at the moment, you have to start preparing to live without them before that. You dont always get the opportunity for this. A lot of people just leave the person without any plan. Thats stupid. If its not going to hurt you, endure a little bit
Good thinking! People dumping each other without thinking is a sign of good financial health. They can dump people with an easygoing mind because the actual demerits of doing so are quite small compared with the benefit of appeasing their fickle personalities.
If I was in some kind of difficult personal situation like an engagement with these problems there would be so many more things I would be considering, but for the sake of answering the question
I will turn off my morality. The girl is kinda a big shot criminal anyways (fraud/embezzlement/bribery/blackmail) and she seems to be unable to apply for a criminal history pardon. I will also accept the situation as giving absolute facts, which means that she really would have nothing good after she breaks her engagement.
I would just look at the engagement in terms of profit and loss (opportunity cost for you economists).
Engagement
-comfort
-financial well-being to the point where she can play on the internet
-financial well-being to the point where she has time to worry about love
-doesn't need to work
-she only had doubts in the last 2-3 years which means for 7-8 years she thought they had real love between them (that's really not bad)
-her fiance is okay with her mooching and criminal history
No Engagement
-no comfort
-needs to work hard
-no recreational activity time
-no guarantee of finding love even though she left somebody she wasn't sure about
-world is not okay with her mooching and criminal nature
Other comments.
Really girl, just give up on loving him. Get married, have a child, love the child, divorce, and take half his assets (and the child), find somebody else.
I see absolutely no gain in the
no engagement route. Her main reason for leaving him would be love, but there is no guarantee that she would ever be fulfilled by a romance. It's like she's a fucking idiot, but then again I don't know what love means to her. It seems that she has a poorly thought out fantasy involving some ideal love that would make her happy, and is willing to make seriously bad decisions without any concrete planning. A fucking idiot. She sounds like the type that can't deal with a harsh life though, an airhead like her should just maintain the status quo.