Ai-chan
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Yes, it usually takes a long time from confession to kissing. In many cases, underaged couples don't kiss at all, or at least not on the lips. You have to understand the difference in culture. In the west, kissing is probably normal, that's why among the Japanese and pretty much every East and South East Asian cultures (except maybe Thailand), there's this 'kissing is like greeting in the west' assumption. For us, we're really baffled by how quickly the westerners resort to kissing on the lips. In every Hollywood movie, there would be men and women kissing. And we'd be like, "Why?" Among the older generation, it's even seen as a sign of immorality.Ai chan! Ai chan! A question!
... Do people actually start dating and like... Not kiss right away?
It feels so weird for me when I see it in mangas. I just assume by default that people would kiss as soon as they start dating at the very minimum.
Now, that is not to say that dating couples don't kiss at all. But kissing on the lips is something considered carnal. That is, you do it when you want to have sex. You don't do it in front of people or as a greeting. Even a husband would not normally kiss their wives on the lips when they get home. Husbands would kiss their wives on the cheeks and on the forehead, but that's it, at least until they're alone in bed.
japanese porn would probably make people think this is something like hypocrisy, but porn is a fantasy. It is allowed because it's considered a fantasy, similar to literature. Had it happen in the real world though, the person doing it would almost immediately be arrested.