I believe it has always been that way, because people can feel differently about things. There's certain objective details that are humanly innate, you can't misread them unless you want to. Recently had a dude tell me people "froze for no reason" when it was during the first action sequence and monsters showed up, involving an old lady (with a trauma regarding those monsters), her just as old hubby and a guard who was very clearly described as not a knight with no experience as a guard of a very quiet region. So they each froze up at some point, in differing ways and differing levels of severity (hubby paused for half a sentence when his wife ran back into danger and he couldn't follow on any level of his being for two seconds or so). Now, some might think the dude was right - no reason given at all! Others might think it's actually just human behavior.
The thing is, as a reader, you can only ever use this rule of thumb: If it's written there, unless it's truly and factually not possible, you can assume something is meant the way it is written down.
If I, as the author, can't tell the story the way I want it to, that's just how it is. I know not everyone will understand it the way I want it to be understood, in that case, I can just give enough leeway for the story to be understood, no matter what, even if thin layers of it are understood differently.
But I have read stories that "told" the story this way, while all of the "showing" told something entirely different.
Funny anecdote (in my eyes): In one really bad example of a story I once read (I actually read it for the fun of its stupidity, together with a friend), with the main premise that the FL supposedly fled from an abusive relationship into the arms of a totally lovable man. In reality, the abusive dude (whom she was soooooooooooooo afraid of, you see?) wasn't mentally capable of keeping the FL (who easily talked back to him on several occasions, btw) in this supposed abusive relationship, it just sweemed like she didn't want to leave, rather than she couldn't. The good guy is cheating with FL on his fiancée who's constantly badmouthed while she wouldn't even be allowed to show up and give me a reason to hate her in 20 chapters. In fact, there's one scene in which the dude and FL have sex in his apartment, while the fiancée is away, and he tells FL that she can wear whatever from that one specific wardrobe in their home. That wardrobe is filled with clothes "totally her style", but they were actually gifts to the dude's fiancée which she wouldn't wear, because she prefers "dressing like a slut" (LOL). In a review, I don't know if it was me or the friend who reviewed it with me, said that it could happen once or maybe twice... maybe even three times. But if he was such an incompetent piece of shit that would gift her an entire wardrobe's worth of clothing she doesn't like, he should have probably stopped trying at some point.
Anyway, no, dudebro is not a good man, constantly showing signs of actually an abusive partner in the early stages and a vicious cheater (he really doesn't like his fiancée, even made that commitment just so she would shut up, so yeah, not a moment of misjudgement or change in feelings, just scum). His fiancée didn't do much wrong as far as I could tell. The abusive guy is just really sad and should seek out help. And the protagonist was acting like a bitch and a pick-me the entire time.
I don't know, it was funny to me.