Leveraging Real Life into Stories

CynicalStrawberry

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I've recently experienced grief for the first time in my life, and I wanted to leverage the emotion into my stories. Have you guys ever done that? Not necessarily with grief, just using real-life events or emotions in your stories. How would you do it? Put the mc in a similar situation? Or do you think I'm forcing it too much?
 

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The interactions and my somewhat complicated opinions towards my mother, is pretty much the foundation to all the interaction and perception of the characters of my stories towards their mothers.

(And no, I do not have the two things you people are thinking about.)
 
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I've recently experienced grief for the first time in my life, and I wanted to leverage the emotion into my stories. Have you guys ever done that? Not necessarily with grief, just using real-life events or emotions in your stories. How would you do it? Put the mc in a similar situation? Or do you think I'm forcing it too much?
My novel, the Ballad of the School Hallways, is a semi-autobiography of my experiences as a teacher in my first job, with fantastical elements. From my student's suicide, to my resignation after I protected another student from his rapist.

My main project now, The Human Saint is Bored, so I was Summoned to Another World, features characters that are from my observation of my students and co-workers' behavior. Also, the MC's attitudes and beliefs is drawn from my experiences too.

As for your question, I use the events and experiences according to the development of my story, or the needs of characters. I do put my MC in a similar situation, but still explore possibilities so it won't be tedious for me.
 

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Emotions 100% give life to characters, including grief. It sort of grounds the story to reality and makes us really care and empathise with the character. If they can overcome it as well, then that's a wonderful character arc/development.

And I hope you're doing ok!
 

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I wasn’t doing too well when I wrote my short story as such it’s pretty dark at points. Had to take a step back once it was finished and trim out and change all of the added emotion that was unnecessary.
 

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Characters that share stories that the author knows first hand are the best, and I believe you'll also find they become favorites.

My only recommendation is to keep it in the genre and don't force character development in a way you aren't really sure you want.

For example, if you have a power fantasy, readers aren't going to like a depressing event for the MC because that's not why they read the book. If you have a cutesy novel about a man who wants to be the best chef in the world people will also not like a tone shift.
 

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I usually opt for putting my characters in situations that aren't exactly the same as mine but that evoke similar emotions. So it just kind of echoes my own experiences, rather than directly repeating them. I think that little bit of added distance makes it more comfortable to process how I feel and put it into words.

For example, back when I was in grad school, I developed a chronic illness that forced me to quit school and has drastically altered the course of my life since then. The MC of the story I'm writing now doesn't have an illness, but he does have unstable magic powers that make him go through a lot of similar things: having to drop out of school, feeling inadequate, being envious of the "normal" people around him, being angry at his own body for betraying him, etc. It's a lot of the same stuff, but since the setting is different, it's just...I don't know. It's just easier to deal with somehow.

Adding lots of cute magic critters to the story helps, too. :blobrofl:
 

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I've recently experienced grief for the first time in my life, and I wanted to leverage the emotion into my stories. Have you guys ever done that? Not necessarily with grief, just using real-life events or emotions in your stories. How would you do it? Put the mc in a similar situation? Or do you think I'm forcing it too much?
To an extent yes, I do do so, but instead of the exact sequence of what happened, I try to fill in the feeling/essence of what happened. Here are a few examples, the first example is the unease you feel when lying to someone you care for about something important.
“What did you say? Sorry I was a bit distracted.”

“It looks like it snowed a couple of inches.”

“Sounds like a pain.” I said as I took the pancake off the pan and put it on the plate I had grabbed, before starting another one.

“Can I have this one?” Phel asked.

“Sure, if you only want one pancake that is.”

“Thank you!” Phel took the plate and grabbed a fork from the silverware drawer. She then went to the fridge and searched in there for a bit. The pancake I was working on began to bubble, so I flipped it before grabbing another plate.

“Do you know where the syrup is?”

“I don’t have any, that stuff is too sticky and gets everywhere.”

“Yet you decided to make pancakes? You can’t eat these without syrup.”

“Why not, the syrup just covers up the taste of the pancakes to me. Seriously there is no reason to have any.”

“That is just you, you know? It is not like you wouldn’t have any guests who prefer to have syrup on their pancakes.”

“Like who?”

“Don and me .” It was quiet for a second, I took the second pancake off the pan before portioning out a second one. I looked back at Phel, she was sitting on a chair staring at the ceiling. Well, I guess that was a bad point to stop our conversation.

“Don’t you mean me and Don?” I said trying to change the subject

“Does that really matter?” She muttered while keeping her gaze on the ceiling. That was an old habit for her whenever she was uncomfortable with a topic she would stare at the ceiling, or at the very least keep her gaze up at the sky. She would stay there until she figured out what to do next. I guess we are similar in the fact that we tend to get lost in thought regularly. Though what tends to cause it is different between us.

I looked back to the sizzling pan, and I could feel the awkward silence between us. I felt the metal spatula grow a bit heavier in my hand. There I stared at the pancake waiting to flip it. The sizzling was deafening, yet also strangely comforting.

“Have you heard anything from him, Don I mean.”

“No.”

I tightened my grip on the spatula and flipped the pancake. My heart began to race and a bunch of thoughts came into my mind: ‘I guess I really am hiding that letter from her.’ ‘I hope she doesn’t find it.’ ‘I hope she doesn’t figure this lie out.’ When the last of those thoughts passed, I let out a sigh.

“I have been asking around since he went missing, but no one has heard anything. Though I haven’t really had much contact with the police, outside of them asking me questions about Don and when I last saw/contacted him. Perhaps you could start with them, they probably have found much more than I have.” I said, perhaps to take my mind off the guilt I felt.

“I guess I will visit them then, though I do hate going outside by myself at this time.”

“I guess I could escort you there then.” I said as I took the last pancake off the pan. I covered the mixing bowl once more with plastic wrap before putting it in the fridge. I grabbed myself a fork and a glass of water before taking the pancakes to the living room. I slouched down on the couch.
The second is anticipation of bad news, in a place full of memories.
Silently, we walked through long grass and tall weeds that poked out through the degraded railroad’s ballast. The roads wooden ties were rotten and ruined. The rusted rail marked our path. The old symbol of progress and modernity reclaimed by nature, nothing more than a fading scar.

Fred was the first of us to reach Will’s tree, before the rest of us caught up. We solemnly stood looking at the old twisted tree, until someone let out a barely audible sigh.

In both of these examples I had experienced something similar irl, but I mixed it with another experience to make the feeling more noticeable.
 
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Characters that share stories that the author knows first hand are the best, and I believe you'll also find they become favorites.

My only recommendation is to keep it in the genre and don't force character development in a way you aren't really sure you want.

For example, if you have a power fantasy, readers aren't going to like a depressing event for the MC because that's not why they read the book. If you have a cutesy novel about a man who wants to be the best chef in the world people will also not like a tone shift.
I agree to this. Sometimes, when we mix our own experiences to the genre, we tend to get carried away and the tone inexplicably shifts.
 

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I've recently experienced grief for the first time in my life, and I wanted to leverage the emotion into my stories. Have you guys ever done that? Not necessarily with grief, just using real-life events or emotions in your stories. How would you do it? Put the mc in a similar situation? Or do you think I'm forcing it too much?
I cant even feel emotions
 

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Everything I write has a kernel of my life in it somewhere. But do yourself a favor... don't do it directly. Parse it out. Make a much WORSE version of the events, then a shadow of the event, then use it as only a throw away line. If you do it directly, it doesn't work. Try to keep it around... 20% you, 80% BS.
 

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One has to know about something to write about it. Well... they don't, but it is best if people don't write stuff they have no idea about.
 

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I've recently experienced grief for the first time in my life, and I wanted to leverage the emotion into my stories. Have you guys ever done that? Not necessarily with grief, just using real-life events or emotions in your stories. How would you do it? Put the mc in a similar situation? Or do you think I'm forcing it too much?
Well I did wrote a short story using real life events about my life but with more exaggerated writing for my school project. I mostly made the story a first person perspective and the MC to be unknown(no gender and no name) while narrating. Overall, if your going to write a story about your grief make sure that you can truly depict the emotions you wanna express and make some words connect to the hearts of the readers.
 

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I have tried but putting even a little bit of my real life into a story felt kinda unpleasant. I have channeled my emotions into writing and when I do channel them it is usually the best I can do
 

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I've recently experienced grief for the first time in my life, and I wanted to leverage the emotion into my stories. Have you guys ever done that? Not necessarily with grief, just using real-life events or emotions in your stories. How would you do it? Put the mc in a similar situation? Or do you think I'm forcing it too much?

I had a similar experience. I tried a few times to capture the moment in writing, but the more I tried to work with it, I kept finding that it just did not work out in written form very well. Ultimately, I distilled out only one core aspect of the grief that translated smoothly into writing and inclusion for use in my characters. That was the strange sense of denial. The strange duality in which the logical part of your brain knows exactly what's going on, but you act out as though you do not believe it anyway.

In this, I have on several occasions written my characters in which their inner monologue and their outward actions absolutely do not match during periods of grief. I'm not certain exactly how my readers take that kind of strange disagreement of thought and behavior, but I like to think I've managed to do something with it.
 

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Yes. The first chapter of my fanfic is essentially a day in my life from 2015 with the addition of the Kaiba brothers from Yu-Gi-Oh! Change the names, and nobody will ever know. Don't forget to give me a one-star rating, please!

 

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Yeah, from hearing everyone's responses, it seems like most people do use their real life emotions in some way, but I guess it really varies from person to person. Some don't; some use it in a similar situation, and some do in a completely different situation with similar emotions. So I guess I just have to go and see what works for me!
 
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