minacia
perpetually sour
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- Jun 22, 2020
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I do think the response to this thread is understandable (I'm certainly not faulting anyone), although I was trying to do what I could to add any context for anyone who read/perceived Scribbler in a way that probably isn't him.Words can have a lot of impact on some people. You can't just barge in and say that you "despise weak people" and that "people are just too sheltered" without expecting people to disagree with that.
This is the kind of garbage ideology that can end up hurting a lot of people. You may not think one message on a forum can have that much impact, but this thread has been viewed more than 2000 times as of right now. Even if some people have read it several times, that's still a shit load of people. And that stuff happens in lots of places, it accumulates for the targeted people who have to suffer through these ideas everywhere they go.
Personally, calling people sheltered and weak and then right after playing the victim card on their profile and in this thread is really what rubbed me the wrong way about all this. Can't be more ironic than that. I would have left it at my first message if it hadn't been for the whole subsequent guilt trip and everything else.
When you're processing your feelings you usually are open to counterarguments, you do not fly the handle the moment someone disagrees with you. Scribbler fucked up here. You're responsible for the shit you write on the internet, especially if you start harassing people with private messages and accusations the moment someone disagrees with you. Excusing it as "processing" is just as harmful as the message in itself.
I really don't like this mindset at all. You do not have to respect harmful opinions just because they are in minority. I'll agree on the fact that people, including myself, reacted strongly to this thread, but I also think it was justified, considering what was being said.
In conclusion, if you're processing harmful thoughts about despising "weak people" for leaving Royal Road's toxic environment in favor of somewhere more accomodating, do it in private. NOT on the fucking public forum where all these people can be found. Think about what you say before you say it.
For instance... I don't really think he is actively or intentionally trying to guilt trip anyone or play the victim card.
He's sort of chronically that way... probably to an unhealthy extent. Normally he doesn't get this much attention on NUF.
I also think you've sort of misunderstood the hating weakness thing. To me, he's sort of addressing himself (i.e. I hate weak people => I hate my own weakness => I need to be strong"), so the type of response that Scribbler is getting in this thread really isn't helping him... That's what I mean by processing. Like he isn't really coming from a privileged position and people misunderstood his perspective (and from my own understanding he's not even really that much of an RR author........)
Finally, about this... I don't respect harmful opinions, but I do respect the person behind them... if that makes sense.I really don't like this mindset at all. You do not have to respect harmful opinions just because they are in minority.
Like I have enormous disagreements with my parents about lots of things, but I still care about them and recognize that they don't always mean negatively. Of course, nobody is obligated to give that kind of consideration for strangers, but it's different for me since I've known Scribbler on NUF for a while.