The older I get, the faster time seems to fly.
What are the biggest changes that you've experienced in the last four years? Are you a different person now than you were in 2016?
Have you grown in any ways? Regressed? Do you like yourself today better than 4 years ago? Or worse?
Did things go just as expected? Or was it entirely unpredictable?
Four years ago I couldn't cross a street by myself for the sheer weight of anxiety's effect upon my psyche. All of my matyroshka, other dolls, dream/lightcatchers, figures, candles, posters, chairs, bottles of lotion for my eczema, and stuffed animals had to be hidden away from my sight if I was going to sleep, and sometimes I could not even bear for them to be in the same room as me while I was awake. I had to sleep in all of my clothes with my room so overfull of light that it was unpleasant, with emergency complete-shadow/darkness-banishment in my hands in case I awoke in the night for any reason. I was ever so slightly below 120 pounds at 5'9, which certainly 'could be much worse', but it was a pretty miserable thing to force myself back up in weight all the same
(took me a year to gain the first ten pounds despite eating to hurting with every single meal I forced myself to take 3 whole times a day and then some if I could make myself, had to start a hobby in cooking just to make myself eat), and a particularly acute case of costocondritis
(rib cartilage inflammation, was so relieved it wasn't a broken bone problem. Husband came with me to the doctor, and the nurse who brought me in to the doctor gave him such a dirty look, it was the funniest thing xD) made every significant enough meal for my weight-gain extremely intolerable. Also, I had to change over a bunch of legal information, because I wanted to marry someone with my actual name and such, and that finally gave me the gumption to do that very stressful thing.
Now the only thing I can't go outside by myself for is
bears (and only until I can carry something on me, fam). I've got Mary Marrow hanging with her hat in hand and a necklace of skulls around her chest, and all of my hard-earned bling is back where I can actually enjoy it. I can enjoy sleeping again in near-complete darkness
and while totally naked (major bonus!). I successfully went all the way up to 185 over those four years to see if it'd stop the costocondritis, it didn't, so I'm now back down to a healthy-enough 158
(writing's dropping it fast though, so I've gotta be at least a little careful I don't drop too quickly, don't really want to go sub 140 again if I can help it). The costocondritis only really bothers me in winter now, or when anything hits my ribs, or just occasionally: it's not even on the second pain scale anymore. I'm not only entirely changed over legally in every possible way
(went blessedly easy, actually, everyone was quite lovely to me), but I'm also married to an Englishman who's successfully through the big bad and ugly part of the immigration process.
TLDR: my mental state's onset of rapid deterioration
(from a state that was never quite 'good') and subsequent slow improvement over the last 4 years has had an
extreme effect upon me. Towards the positive, I'd like to think, and although I'll never be quite the same as I used to be: I don't actually think that's a bad thing.
4 years ago I was told by almost everyone I knew that I would never get better
(that I'd always been like 'this', or that I was still so 'crazy', or alternately: one person tried going behind my back to my ex-girlfriend to see about getting me sent to one of those lunacy homes/deposited there without my knowing about it. That friendship most certainly didn't last, though that wasn't the end of it, merely temporary 'respite' from its infliction). I don't interact with any of them anymore, and not because they were 'wrong'
(they thankfully were, because that was all very unpleasant). A long seclusion from people was necessary, and so my reintegration with society of sorts has been a long time coming :) Can't just stop talking to
anyone but my husband and limited interactions with family members (his and mine) without some social cost though. So my weirdness is probably a bit up, but I don't care if others think I'm a touch strange now: they're probably pretty weird themselves, if they think about it. :D