Dear Everyone: Sorry Been Such A Downer

[TheEldritchGod]

Yeah, so... about 80% of the funerals I've attended have been in December. Mom died on my birthday which is this month. Sister died on the 10th, Richard threw himself in front of a subway train last year on the 15th. Madodge is dead, Cabby is dead, Leonard's dead, Sam's dead. I spend last night drunk as hell just trying to find people I used to know and feels like I'm the last one alive. I get it. We didn't exactly live lives designed for longevity, but I didn't expect to be the last man standing at 50.

Oh. Good chance my cat in stage three kidney failure is gonna die soon, so... fuckin' merry Christmas.

If on the odd chance "Skeletor" if yer still alive, and you know who you are. Remember Silvernail? We worked that Springsteen Concert on grand island? Miss ya man. Drop me a line. I can't find Silvernail and would love to chat. Yer the only two left I don't know about and... Silvernail's dead, isn't he? Nobody does that much coke and lives. But I dunno...How many motorcycle crashes was he in? Isn't like, both legs completely reconstructed with metal rods? Maybe a cyborg like him could still be alive.

Maybe I'm still a bit drunk.

I hate Christmas. I hate everything this time of year. I might be taking it out on you guys and I'm sorry. I miss the Casino I miss those guys. The "secret pass" to get across the border. Man, can't pull that shit these days. We were MAGIC. The all you can eat, the stupidity of Niagra Falls. We ruled. Well, for a while. For a brief shining moment. Always one step ahead until it all caught up. What i wouldn't give to hear Russel The Love Muscle come screaming out of the darkness fuckin' baked out of his mind again.

God we were stupid. Always angry. Always something to prove. Always smarter than the next guy until it all came down.

I should sleep. But still, wanted to say, I like you guys. Sorry been such an ass lately. its not you, its me. Soon as Jan comes around, I'll stop being so depressed.

 

[SailusGebel]

Yes.

 

[Anon2024]

No.

 

[georgelee5786]

Hope you feel better soon

 

[Legi0n]

This will sound harsh.
I don't care about everything you experienced, nor was I interested in knowing it, though I am sad to hear this much happened to you.
This is not the place for such things, this is a forum for writers and readers.
If you need to talk, go to a friend or a family member.
If you need help, go to someone who can help you, either spiritually or medically.
Giving such a burnden to us it's not fair.

 

[greyblob]

This will sound harsh.
I don't care about everything you experienced, nor was I interested in knowing it, though I am sad to hear this much happened to you.
This is not the place for such things, this is a forum for writers and readers.
If you need to talk, go to a friend or a family member.
If you need help, go to someone who can help you, either spiritually or medically.
Giving such a burnden to us it's not fair.

don't read it dipshit. no one forced your eyes open and stuffed the words down your throat. don't like what you're reading? stop and move on

 

[Legi0n]

don't read it dipshit. no one forced your eyes open and stuffed the words down your throat. don't like what you're reading? stop and move on

You suggested approach is superficial.

 

[Paul_Tromba]

That really sucks, dude. I'm sorry and hope things get better.

 

[Poleg]

This will sound harsh.
I don't care about everything you experienced, nor was I interested in knowing it, though I am sad to hear this much happened to you.
This is not the place for such things, this is a forum for writers and readers.
If you need to talk, go to a friend or a family member.
If you need help, go to someone who can help you, either spiritually or medically.
Giving such a burnden to us it's not fair.

If his post did not invoke any care, then why did you care to reply..?

 

[tiaf]

This is not the place for such things, this is a forum for writers and readers

This is the kind of content I spent hours reading on quota. This is the kind of story that enriches me as a writer and moves me as a reader.

A forum is for socializing within a community. I do not think it’s wrong to post that here. You can always choose to close the tab.

@TheEldritchGod I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine how painful it is and I hope December will pass fast for you.

 

[K5Rakitan]

This will sound harsh.
I don't care about everything you experienced, nor was I interested in knowing it, though I am sad to hear this much happened to you.
This is not the place for such things, this is a forum for writers and readers.
If you need to talk, go to a friend or a family member.
If you need help, go to someone who can help you, either spiritually or medically.
Giving such a burnden to us it's not fair.

People need multiple outlets to mourn, and "complaining out" is completely appropriate. You don't need to be part of the support circle here if you don't want to. Click somewhere else if you have nothing supportive to say:

Circle of Grief: How to Support Someone Who's Grieving

The Ring Theory offers you a technique called the Circle of Grief that may help you avoid saying the "wrong" thing to someone grieving.

psychcentral.com

I learned that when my boyfriend died in 2015. Also, here's something else that might be helpful:

The Ball and Box Analogy on Coping with Grief

Grieving may feel like a giant ball in a box with a pain button. This analogy may help you understand the process better.

psychcentral.com

 

[hijauKuning]

This will sound harsh.
I don't care about everything you experienced, nor was I interested in knowing it, though I am sad to hear this much happened to you.
This is not the place for such things, this is a forum for writers and readers.
If you need to talk, go to a friend or a family member.
If you need help, go to someone who can help you, either spiritually or medically.
Giving such a burnden to us it's not fair.

You're not obliged to receive a share of their burden. No one is asking you to take it.

I'm sorry, but this is general chat. SHF profile post is too short for the thread, and it still has no blog section. What writers and readers? It's here:

Not here:

It's okay to be rude because this is internet after all, but I don't agree with you saying this is not the place to share any short of feelings because my reasons above.

 

[Deleted member 54065]

Yeah, so... about 80% of the funerals I've attended have been in December. Mom died on my birthday which is this month. Sister died on the 10th, Richard threw himself in front of a subway train last year on the 15th. Madodge is dead, Cabby is dead, Leonard's dead, Sam's dead. I spend last night drunk as hell just trying to find people I used to know and feels like I'm the last one alive. I get it. We didn't exactly live lives designed for longevity, but I didn't expect to be the last man standing at 50.

Oh. Good chance my cat in stage three kidney failure is gonna die soon, so... fuckin' merry Christmas.

If on the odd chance "Skeletor" if yer still alive, and you know who you are. Remember Silvernail? We worked that Springsteen Concert on grand island? Miss ya man. Drop me a line. I can't find Silvernail and would love to chat. Yer the only two left I don't know about and... Silvernail's dead, isn't he? Nobody does that much coke and lives. But I dunno...How many motorcycle crashes was he in? Isn't like, both legs completely reconstructed with metal rods? Maybe a cyborg like him could still be alive.

Maybe I'm still a bit drunk.

I hate Christmas. I hate everything this time of year. I might be taking it out on you guys and I'm sorry. I miss the Casino I miss those guys. The "secret pass" to get across the border. Man, can't pull that shit these days. We were MAGIC. The all you can eat, the stupidity of Niagra Falls. We ruled. Well, for a while. For a brief shining moment. Always one step ahead until it all caught up. What i wouldn't give to hear Russel The Love Muscle come screaming out of the darkness fuckin' baked out of his mind again.

God we were stupid. Always angry. Always something to prove. Always smarter than the next guy until it all came down.

I should sleep. But still, wanted to say, I like you guys. Sorry been such an ass lately. its not you, its me. Soon as Jan comes around, I'll stop being so depressed.

Sorry for your loss, man. But don't force yourself; going through those events you mentioned is more than what we--as humans--can bear, and though it's sad, your mental fortitude is admirable.

In any case, you have all the rights to feel sad. Don't mind us. Some might be an asshole, but many are still human like you. We can listen. We can emphatize. Feel free to talk about it anytime.

At least there are people who would listen to you.

Edit: Want to have some of my medals? I got them for serving @georgelee5786 's emperor and khan.

 

[Legi0n]

You're not obliged to receive a share of their burden. No one is asking you to take it.

I'm sorry, but this is general chat. SHF profile post is too short for the thread, and it still has no blog section. What writers and readers? It's here:
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Not here:
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It's okay to be rude because this is internet after all, but I don't agree with you saying this is not the place to share any short of feelings because my reasons above.

The fact that there are general (or off topic if you will) sections does not change the user base of this forum.

My main concern, which maybe wasn't clear enough, is that this is not the place he should be looking for help.
It is my belief he should be looking for physical contact and professional help instead of posting here, on a forum were anyone (of any age btw) can write and that does not treat this kind of issues.

I do not believe this to be the appropriate place for such topics.

Also, it's not really a choice to take that burnden imho. Any sane person would not feel good reading what he is living through.
It's not like you can know what the content of a thread is before opening it.

My reasoning might be selfish, but I do believe to be my right to not see myself suddenly face to face which such topic, especially in a place that has little to do with it.

 

[owotrucked]

Go ahead and unload your burden. You can't make me sad if I live in my imaginary slice of life with my hundred harem waifus.

Dunno if it's the same feeling, but nostalgia really hits hard, man. I get that yearning for the old mmo I played, but actually redoing them is shockingly crap.

That experience and all the people who shared it with you are forever lost in the past. The noob who you taught only bullshit, the guy that swindled you by manipulating the loot order, the clan you swindled by stealing their equipment...

Making new connections never feels the same. But time is only moving forward and you can only waddle through the new while gazing back

 

[Fox-Trot-9]

Ouch! Yeah, that's really tough on you, I can imagine. I've got a similar deal with June of all months. It's the month where a lot of things happened for me, like my mom having a car accident in early June in 2017, my nephew dying in the middle of the same month, me having my own accident back in 2013. So I can understand why you're so moody this month. June's the same for me. Hell, even celebrities go through something like it, too. Billy Joe Armstrong of Green Day hates Septembers, b/c that's when his father died. You've got every right to be upset. Just know that you're not alone, okay? You're in good company.

 

[Aaqil]

Yeah, so... about 80% of the funerals I've attended have been in December. Mom died on my birthday which is this month. Sister died on the 10th, Richard threw himself in front of a subway train last year on the 15th. Madodge is dead, Cabby is dead, Leonard's dead, Sam's dead. I spend last night drunk as hell just trying to find people I used to know and feels like I'm the last one alive. I get it. We didn't exactly live lives designed for longevity, but I didn't expect to be the last man standing at 50.

Oh. Good chance my cat in stage three kidney failure is gonna die soon, so... fuckin' merry Christmas.

If on the odd chance "Skeletor" if yer still alive, and you know who you are. Remember Silvernail? We worked that Springsteen Concert on grand island? Miss ya man. Drop me a line. I can't find Silvernail and would love to chat. Yer the only two left I don't know about and... Silvernail's dead, isn't he? Nobody does that much coke and lives. But I dunno...How many motorcycle crashes was he in? Isn't like, both legs completely reconstructed with metal rods? Maybe a cyborg like him could still be alive.

Maybe I'm still a bit drunk.

I hate Christmas. I hate everything this time of year. I might be taking it out on you guys and I'm sorry. I miss the Casino I miss those guys. The "secret pass" to get across the border. Man, can't pull that shit these days. We were MAGIC. The all you can eat, the stupidity of Niagra Falls. We ruled. Well, for a while. For a brief shining moment. Always one step ahead until it all caught up. What i wouldn't give to hear Russel The Love Muscle come screaming out of the darkness fuckin' baked out of his mind again.

God we were stupid. Always angry. Always something to prove. Always smarter than the next guy until it all came down.

I should sleep. But still, wanted to say, I like you guys. Sorry been such an ass lately. its not you, its me. Soon as Jan comes around, I'll stop being so depressed.

 

[Deleted member 54065]

The fact that there are general (or off topic if you will) sections does not change the user base of this forum.

My main concern, which maybe wasn't clear enough, is that this is not the place he should be looking for help.

No offense man, but I think he's just letting off some burdens, not necessarily asking for help. And in fact, letting off by ranting is a way to 'help himself'.

Also, if you'll look into the user base (or demographics), a lot of writers and other creatives have a problem dealing with their thoughts, and/or emotions. Hence, writing communities are there to help them with their stuff, including 'self-care'. That's why, nowhere in the forum rules for SHF would you see that there's a rule forbidding anyone to let out their feelings, as long as it doesn't fall into these four violations.

In fact, look, making a thread about depression is even encouraged, so "others can cheer you up".

It is my belief he should be looking for physical contact and professional help instead of posting here, on a forum were anyone (of any age btw) can write and that does not treat this kind of issues.

I do not believe this to be the appropriate place for such topics.

Indeed it does. However, there's always an exception to the rule. Besides, it's not an everyday occurrence, and there are others who have time to lend their 'ears'.

Also, it's not really a choice to take that burnden imho. Any sane person would not feel good reading what he is living through.
It's not like you can know what the content of a thread is before opening it.

Well, if you got affected by what he went through, you can also let off that steam, which you are doing now. And we can listen too.

My reasoning might be selfish, but I do believe to be my right to not see myself suddenly face to face which such topic, especially in a place that has little to do with it.

He also has a right to say anything that he wants, since this is 'General Chat', and there are others who do that here. Feel free to think like that (expressing your frustration, I mean) as well. This is the internet, so the flow of information, and opinions, is free. Up to us what poison we pick.

 

[StrongArm]

I hate christmas too Eldritch god. Your posts are crazy, but i like crazy. Sorry for being a right bastard sometimes on here. I'll swig some vodka for you "Skoll!"

 

[Nekroz]

I'm sorry that any of that happened to you and the people close to you.