Yeah, i usually will use a name if i know or, if lacking their name, just use "they" if they arent a "him" or "her".
Yeah, i usually will use a name if i know or, if lacking their name, just use "they".
what boggles my mind when it comes to pronouns is all the confected ones like "zher", "zhim" and etc. They just sound so...
Back in the olden days, they used to use "he/him" for default, just like they used to say "man" and "mankind" in short for all of humanity. It sounds super weird to modern ears, but that's how it used to be. Personally, I find no problem in conversing online or IRL without needing to reference somebody's gender. So, unless they've made their preferred pronouns and nomenclature known to me, I'll either default to neutral or (rarely) just ask.
There's a good reason that the language is evolving. The old language was pointlessly exclusionary. Of course, as writers, it's our job to command the language for the sake of narrative, and sometimes that means delving into that weird old language. For instance, one of my villains is a 300 year-old vampire who talks like that, and it definitely comes across as creepy - and is supposed to come across as creepy. But anybody using that stuff for their day-to-day speech is either totally clueless or being deliberately annoying.
And here I am, thinking that I should use "you" in such cases. Welp, guess my understanding and knowledge of English isn't as good as I thought.
Sometimes I use 'he' instead of 'she' for characters in my novel even though I'm the one who created them...(sometimes I also typed 'It'
.I guess my brain is pretty fucked up)
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Realy? I did not know that.
Not a good example mate. Pronouns and names are different. Names, you dont utter that exact name your whole life. Pronouns, thats simply asking you to chage how you've learned to speak since a kid. So, I dont know what you mean by human decency but not forcing people to change the way they've always spoken to serve your brittle mental fortitude would be more in line with that[human decency]. And respect doesnt come from simply using their chosen pronoun. Most people will remain respectful and would respect your choices unless it encroaches in their territory and forces them to do something they dont want to. So if you want respect, simply dropping the pronoun shit would go miles that way. And I dont get the pronoun mess anyway. You've made a choice to change your gender, sure people have the right to do what they want. But why expect others to cater to that change. And why act like a victim every time someone doesnt.
Its actually not. 'He' had always been the common pronoun when unspecified. 'They' has only popped up recently and has seen an increase in use. Tho correct me if I'm wrong cuz I had read it somewhere and I cant remember the source; it was a trustworthy source however.
"They" has been used in the past, but it is uncommon. Another reason why people use "he" is because it gives a more specific vibe to the sentence. "They" is often associated with multiple people than one unknown person. He gives a clear concise meaning that the sentence is referred to a singular person.
Yea of course you don't, that's the point.
Putting aside the argument about there being two genders, which I believe there is but u dont, so lets keep that aside. Just becuz you say using different pronouns is growth does not mean it is. Instead, it is whats creating all the clashes. If you truly wanted a change for the better, you wouldnt have started the pronoun shit to begin with. Majority of the people dont have any problem in accepting trans. But then you, using the argument of 'change', try to increase the clash between the community. There's a reason why u guys are called snowflakes. Its becuz you cant accept the consequences of your actions and try to force other people to change for your sake by using the 'change' or 'human decency' argument. No one's stopping someone from changing their genders, but why do you think they also have to oblige to that and change themselves. Expecting such is simply being self-entitled and whining when not getting it is simply victim mentality.
But neither is changing that becuz u might somehow 'hurt' other people's feelings otherwise.
.....Damn mate...your IQ level... So in your opinion, changing how people use pronouns is the definition of change here. And you should fight for it like it will bring a revolution.... What it does in the end is create conflict and distance between the community. Tho with your IQ level, I dont expect you to get that part. I mean, you took that and brought it to being a 'cuck'.... *sigh* You, my friend, are a prime example of a snowflake. Waste time on meaningless shit, and drag others in.
There is no social requirement for you to be decent to other people and not be an asshole. But getting upset when people don't show you the modicum of common decency and respect to refer to you as you wish to be referred is not unreasonable and it is not playing the victim. People have the right to do what they want, including the right to be jerks to other people, but it is reasonable to expect blowback when you are deliberately insensitive or dismissive of what somebody tells you is their lived experience or how they would like to be treated.