Holy shit the amount of experience the people on this thread have is astounding the most needy girlfriend I had was someone who constantly wanted gifts expensive too
This is where I get dating advice bro.
Listen to all these experiences to avoid these experiences...
Jokes aside though...
Ok internet says being "needy" is not romantic. I don't understand why. First google search says being needy is "to need someone more than they need you and being afraid of them leaving you". Like it just seems like someone wants your company a lot and really loves you but also has problems they discuss with you.
It also really depends on how and what you search for on the internet. Some sites the stuff they mention are not credible. Some have hidden agenda, some don't know what they're trying to talk about, some are pushing for stuff that is...
Being too needy can lead to being clingy which can lead to a whole lot of mess, including toxicity and and stuff.
Edit: I read somewhere clingy may be different from needy through a quick google search. Still though, clingy can put off others.
Like in idealized version of love isn't it like you are just free to share your thoughts Like becoming one brain.
You are free to share your thoughts in a healthy, loving relationship. But as much as people say they lost a part of themselves when someone goes, they don't become one brain. People have their own minds and stuff...that is why it can lead to heartbreak but those differences can also make one attracted to each other..
The happy perfect couples you see don't always finish each other sentences. In reality a lot of happy relationships has ups and downs...being able to talk to each other despite differences and find common ground is probably what helps build some relationships up. Nothing is ever perfect, and you may not find a partner that agrees with you a 100% every time, but probably on some good variations.
I can understand why it would be bad if it will be one sided but if both people actually understand each others problems then why is it seen as not romantic.
Also i think boys are more likely to find being need more romantic than girls. I mean in most shows aimed at males the romance plot is .
insecure girl opens up to over the top boy. Though brooding boy and gentle girl is also a trope
Tropes you see in stories/shows...if you were to put that to real life, it would just be a downright creepy and a hell no.
Yes, relationships need that click somewhere, that connection. Yes, there's some part that's needed like mutual respect, someone to be there for you, etc. Relationships have that. But its not over the top need this person, must have this person all time.
If to the point of following you around, controlling every decision you could make and such, clinging onto you, jealous of you hanging out with others even with your friends and family? I mean Ik one that are not bad and good with each other... But that's beside the point, there's a great possible chance it can turn to controlling and be very bad....especially if you start to feel like you're losing freedom to breathe and have some space to yourself. Or if that needy person starts becoming abusive in the relationship in trying to control and dictate you because they only want you to themselves.
Although I don't have any romantic relationship experience, I do know that.
Needy Does Not Equate to Romantic. There
Is a Difference.