I think he isn't going medieval really. Nothing you described so far sounded medieval to me. He has extremely individualistic values you can even say selfish, but they aren't medieval.
Well, that's because he IS me, and it's kind of hard making "me" live in a medieval world when we lived in a modern world where we're sheltered or something.
He wants a harem for personal reasons, not because he needs to make babies and make his clan prosper for example.
You had me in the first half, not gonna lie.
Ik everyone has different opinions on this, but for me, it'd be no. As a girl, just because someone is nice doesnt mean I'll accept them if I fall in love with someone else already. If accept every nice guy out there just because they so nice to me, haha what I would be known as to some/society behind my back?
Its also sorta why I don't like always the disney princess stories. They fell in love and its always someone who helped save them. It feels more like because I save you, I have to be in love with you and marry you. Is it love though or more of just gratitude for being saved?
So to me idea of they're nice to me so should include them in, doesn't feel too right. Unless the person fell in love with them, otherwise just accepting anyone who is nice doesn't seem develop a relationship beyond just gratitude.
I only know one person who sorta marry person bc they were always there and helpful for to them, but they also love each other. And work together as teammates through thick and thin.
If someone just confesses they love you, but do you or the main love them back the same way? I think has be mutual (unless you're talking about historically where they didn't had much choice who they marry and how many partners their spouses without many of them agreeing to it happily). This just feels like more accept out of pity or gratitude, but not really bc the mc love this character too, but just bc they helped a lot. So it seems less romantic bond between them right there.
Now if the main girl knows about it and is okay with it, then maybe. Every relationship (s) are different. Would imagine it to be like accepting friend or companion. It sounds like couple just taking in their friend tbh thu.
But that is if main girl is comfortable with it or you let them know beforehand. Otherwise it'd make em pissed and as a few said, i would consider it cheating as well. Having another partner besides your main when supposedly in a monogamous relationship with the main would leave that partner feel cheated on and experience heartbreak, anger, pain. Especially if all secretive or way they treat the main is different from how they treasure their mistresses and the main knows about it but nothing they can do.
Ik one great grandma found out great grandpa had another wife after many years, she was Not happy.
As for harem stories, I'm not really into harem stories so can't really say. The stories I do read may include harem but bc of harem court politics, the main couple never has a harem and/or chooses no harem, just the one. I'm more into monogamous relationships stories since that is what I'd prefer too. But everyone is different and if you still wanna go for harem route do what you do. Its a story anyways.
Now that I've re-read my comment, let me rephrase it first, "-it'd be SUPER HARD to say no to her, since you're already in love with someone else while not wanting to hurt her feelings." Much better.
Now, THIS is why I wanted to ask so that I could get insights of both sides. Now, as for your comment, this is what I can say:
Yes, I'm too lazy and tired to edit this part but you get the idea.
Why is it hard to argue with your comment? Because it's all true, and it's the kind of answer I wanted! You really did it in-depth, and now, let's de-bunk it.
Ik everyone has different opinions on this, but for me, it'd be no. As a girl, just because someone is nice doesnt mean I'll accept them if I fall in love with someone else already. If accept every nice guy out there just because they so nice to me, haha what I would be known as to some/society behind my back?
True doh.
Its also sorta why I don't like always the disney princess stories. They fell in love and its always someone who helped save them. It feels more like because I save you, I have to be in love with you and marry you. Is it love though or more of just gratitude for being saved?
So to me idea of they're nice to me so should include them in, doesn't feel too right. Unless the person fell in love with them, otherwise just accepting anyone who is nice doesn't seem develop a relationship beyond just gratitude.
I did consult with my brother with this, and this is the same thing he said. Although this was what he said, I still need more insights. Can't really conclude a mystery when you only have one evidence, right?
If someone just confesses they love you, but do you or the main love them back the same way?
This just feels like more accept out of pity or gratitude, but not really bc the mc love this character too, but just bc they helped a lot. So it seems less romantic bond between them right there.
Well, the sad truth is the fact that I never experienced romantic love before, so I can't really say anything about that. What I can say though, is that the main character has been mind fucked in the far far future, seeing as he reincarnates repeatedly, keeping his memory each death and then going to another world to live another life again and again and again (No, this isn't a spoiler, it is literally in the first chapter after the prologue). So if I were in his shoes, I'd really have a hard time getting myself straight.
Now if the main girl knows about it and is okay with it, then maybe. Every relationship (s) are different. Would imagine it to be like accepting friend or companion. It sounds like couple just taking in their friend tbh thu.
But that is if main girl is comfortable with it or you let them know beforehand. Otherwise it'd make em pissed and as a few said, i would consider it cheating as well.
In one of the things I've mapped out just in case this actually gains a 2-girl harem in it, is that they'll have a friendly rivalry on "who the best wife is" kind of deal, you know?
Especially if all secretive or way they treat the main is different from how they treasure their mistresses and the main knows about it but nothing they can do.
Lmao, no. As far as I know, I, or my MC, won't like keeping secrets with my lover. Well, I never had one to begin with so I can't really say. But if I were to do something like that, I'd fucking shame myself. I may be dumb, stupid, over-emotional and short-sighted, but I at least think rationally. That's why I'm asking for insights before I do something I think I might regret. And gosh damn I did the right thing.
Ik one great grandma found out great grandpa had another wife after many years, she was Not happy.
Ah, sounds like Bill Gates IMO.
So, as of now, I think I know what to lean on. However, if someone says that my idea of "In one of the things I've mapped out just in case this actually gains a 2-girl harem in it, is that they'll have a friendly rivalry on "who the best wife is" kind of deal" is acceptable to the majority of the people here, then I might consider it. It really depends on my morality and the opinions of people here whom I take to be as "Judges" or "Critics". Although I'm the Author, I can write whatever shit I want, I don't want my readers to then say "Well that was Dogshit", I want them to say "Holy shit that was good shit". To those who actually reply to this thread, thank you for being interested. I'm looking forward to future answers, and besides, this part will still be very far, so keep the answers coming!