DarklyReadsBooks
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Naturally, being the Origin God, I have full confidence, your mortal trifles do not afflict me.
Generally speaking, as you improve as a writer, you tend to look at your earlier works and notice their issues more easily.
I definitely feel like there are some real problems on the first stories I wrote for Online Roleplays, for example.
For my first novel... I can clearly see that it's amateurish and it suffers from me not being as aware as I thought I was about what I wanted to write. Had I written ahead a bit (as opposed to publishing chapters as soon as I was done writing and proofreading them), I'm sure the final work would have been more polished.
Though cringing? Not really, I like my previous stories, even if they have their flaws~
Well written smut can do wonders for character development.What is good about writing smut?, i can't get it why people love to write this kind of thing.
... Unless the characters are minors and/or not mentally prepared for it.For a realistic relationship, you simply need sex,
Minors cannot have a realistic relationship.... Unless the characters are minors and/or not mentally prepared for it.
Or are in a Long Distance Relationship...
Or have too much discomfort with their own body, to the point they can't fathom showing themselves naked to someone else...
Or they just don't feel any sexual arousal towards others, even if they have romantic feelings for the other party...
Or they have a trauma (like, being raped when younger and the like) that makes them unable to get into a sexual situation without triggering PTSD...
There are a lot of ways to make a realistic relationship between characters not involve sex... >.>
That's just silly. What's not realistic about teenagers being in love and entering a relationship with the person that they fell in love with?Minors cannot have a realistic relationship.
As someone who...LDR's are not realistic relationships.
You don't know anything about self-image issues it seems. There is a big difference between loving someone and being able to show yourselves to them.If you can't show yourself to anyone, not even the person you love and trust above all others, I'd say you don't love them at all.
I'm not the one who said that you need sex for having a realistic relationship, you were. *shrugs*If they're both asexual, that's their thing and physical intimacy does not strictly require sex as they could still sleep together as I mentioned before.
Love alone doesn't heal traumas. Often times, nothing heals traumas.Trauma-healing is exactly part of the character building I mentioned. Trusting one person to be with you and allowing yourself to be healed by them is a big part of love in general.
Not everyone has the desire for the physical aspect of a relationship. And even if they do, not everyone is capable of going through with the physical aspect, due to their own internal reasons.And with that, I respectfully disagree. Relationships without any physical desire are relationships imagined by shut-ins and antisocial people, therefore making them unrealistic.
What you deem as "imagined by shut-ins and antisocial people" is a somewhat common phenomenon on married couples.A sexless marriage is a marital union in which little or no sexual activity occurs between the two spouses. The US National Health and Social Life Survey in 1992 found that 2% of the married respondents (aged 18 to 59) reported no sexual intimacy in the past year.[1] The definition of a non-sexual marriage is often broadened to include those where sexual intimacy occurs fewer than ten times per year, in which case 20 percent of the couples in the National Health and Social Life Survey would be in the category. Other studies show that 10% or less of the married population below age 50 have not had sex in the past year. In addition less than 20% report having sex a few times per year, or even monthly, under the age 40.
As for the minors, perhaps I was being too extreme by saying that they can't have realistic relationships outright because that made it seem like teenagers can't fall for one another which is not the case. They can, but I do not see minors as capable of being rational about these things, therefore such things are not realistic. Or maybe I should quit using the world 'realistic'. It implies that a relationship like this cannot happen, which is untrue and not what I mean.That's just silly. What's not realistic about teenagers being in love and entering a relationship with the person that they fell in love with?
Sure, they aren't calm and mature people, nor are they people who can seriously consider marriage or anything similar, but their relationship is absolutely realistic.
As someone who...
I disagree.
- is on her 3rd LDR,
- who has 2 friends who got together by getting to know each other online (and had the first 6 or so months of their dating as purely online) and are still together to this day,
- Who knows someone that is currently living together with their significant other, and that stayed 2 years in a LDR with them.
- Who knows another person who recently got married to someone that they dated for over a year in a LDR...
You don't know anything about self-image issues it seems. There is a big difference between loving someone and being able to show yourselves to them.
When simply seeing yourself on the mirror makes you cry, you can bet that you won't want to show yourself to anyone ever.
I'm not the one who said that you need sex for having a realistic relationship, you were. *shrugs*
Love alone doesn't heal traumas. Often times, nothing heals traumas.
You think every kid that was thrown in an orphanage due to abusive parents, and that gets adopted by a loving family later on, ends up recovering from their traumas? They don't. Some do, of course, not all... And definitely not just from loving parents, but also from a huge network of professionals that are trying to aid the child's recovery, or to help them deal with the trauma and reduce its impact on the kid's day to day life.
The same holds true for any kind of trauma. Love healing is cute, but it's not close to enough, and it doesn't always work. Some things you can overcome, others you just do your best to learn how to deal with so as to not have it have a considerable impact on your day to day life.
Not everyone has the desire for the physical aspect of a relationship. And even if they do, not everyone is capable of going through with the physical aspect, due to their own internal reasons.
Also, here is some interesting bit of trivia for you:
What you deem as "imagined by shut-ins and antisocial people" is a somewhat common phenomenon on married couples.
You can have your own opinions on what is right or wrong in a relationship... But calling "everything that I don't deem 'normal' is unrealistic" like you're doing is just silly... Especially because you somehow seem to think that minors can't have a realistic relationship.
I'd say I gained a lot of confidence here . I'm very pleased with my total Chapter views, and appreciate it that anyone has taken the time to read what I'm up to .Rather than being arrogant, more like how much confidence did you all just lose or gain like weights in here over time?
No.Well, on August 2019, I saw a dream, and that was such an amazing one, I wanted to write it. So, I wrote about it on word and when it was completed, I posted it here chapter by chapter.
I was so arrogant that I didn't even write a synopsis. I just wrote that it is written by me and that it's not for kids. And, well. I was really expecting people to get intimidated by my confidence like they show in movies. The dream of making millions was almost within my reach, till I decided one day to read my work and got cringed so hard I deleted the hell out of it. I still want to write it but romance is more difficult than I thought.
And, well, please tell me I am not alone...
No, as in I am not alone?
Arrogant and me? Nah, I was hell lot nervous.Well, on August 2019, I saw a dream, and that was such an amazing one, I wanted to write it. So, I wrote about it on word and when it was completed, I posted it here chapter by chapter.
I was so arrogant that I didn't even write a synopsis. I just wrote that it is written by me and that it's not for kids. And, well. I was really expecting people to get intimidated by my confidence like they show in movies. The dream of making millions was almost within my reach, till I decided one day to read my work and got cringed so hard I deleted the hell out of it. I still want to write it but romance is more difficult than I thought.
And, well, please tell me I am not alone...