Out of curiosity, what is @GodlyKamui’s optimal harem size?
A. No restrictions
B. Assuming you’re not allowed to abandon lovers (I.e marry and forget about is not allowed — you have to give attention to all your spouses)
C. How many people can you imagine loving equally? (I.e having a “best wife” isn’t allowed)
D. How many people can you genuinely hold feelings for at the same time? (I.e being slightly physically attracted doesn’t count — must be 100% totally in love)
Since people are answering, I guess I might as well too!
A) 1 person!
B) 1 person!
C) I don't think it's possible to love people equally. Every teacher has their favorite student, every parent has their favorite child, every child has their favorite parent... That's just normal.
So... Rather than loving equally, I'd instead try thinking of it as loving different people in different ways, and being consciously aware of my own bias and trying to take it into account when making actions in order to not give preferential treatment to someone as much as possible... Though this can also lead to the person you care for the most being the most neglected one due to you purposefully avoiding giving them special care, resulting in giving them basically no care, so it's actually a pretty hard thing to execute properly~
With all those caveats in mind... I think 2 or 3 maybe? It's hard to be sure. I can't imagine ever entering a polyamorous relationship myself, but I don't have anything against them per se. So like, if I was in one, I think having 2 or 3 partners and loving all of them would be feasible, just... Not something I personally want for myself.
D) I think this answer overlaps a lot with C tbh... But uhn... Right now I can only imagine holding romantic feelings for one person... Maybe in different circumstances I'd feel differently though, but rn I only want to love my boyfriend and nobody else~ <3