he said he didn't know and to tell him when I figure it out.
Then I've been an adult since I was 15 after I got my first job.
Sigh.
Well, hate to say it, yes. You are an adult because you don't have any in your life.
The problem is, you don't have a signpost. Most cultures (used to) have a rite of passage to mark when a boy became a man. It always involved some feat of endurance. Drink alot. Go kill a bear. Sit in a sweat lodge. That sort of thing. You see, being an adult in your case means being a man. Being a man means putting up with suffering. Society is built on the bodies of dead men.
You see, every woman is born with inherent value. Like it or not, women are the means by which humanity survives. We need women, we don't need men... for reproduction.
However, someone has to dig the ditches. Someone has to shover the shit. When it comes to the back breaking slave labor that maintains society, that's men. Women are human beings, men are human doings.
You are a man, and you aren't doing something, What Good Are You?
And anyone who wants to argue with me, go ahead, but you had better be logical and give examples. Male pain is forbidden. I once had a break down. Flash back to some really bad shit. Locked myself in the bathroom to have a good cry. My co-workers called the police and HAD ME ARRESTED FOR CRYING. I got taken to the psychward... FOR CRYING IN THE BATHROOM.
I'm not the only one. Woman crying on the side of the road, people will stop and check on her. There have been studies. but if it is a man, go fuck youself. This is how society sees you. You are expendable.
This is a good thing.
Holy crap would never want to be a woman. Have to put up with all the shit they go through? To NOT be seen for what I do and instead what I was born as? I am valued for what I have accomplished, not just because I have balls between my legs. I man who does nothing is discarded and rejected by society, and a man who builds and creates is valued. That's how it is... even if modern TV and movies tell you otherwise.
Yes, in the past 15 years you cannot point to 5 decent father role models in modern TV. You have basically King of queens and homer Simpson, and a hundred bumbling, idiotic fathers who need to be saved by women in their lives. I am not surprised you have no idea how to be an adult, because I suspect you haven't SEEN ONE in years. But the fact is, as much as Hollywood wants to tell you that all men are stupid idiots and women are the bestestest evar, the fact of the matter is, the real world don't give a shit about what you think, but what you do. The world only rewards success.
How do you be an adult?
Limitations. Impose limits on yourself. Do hard work. Society considers the word 'work' to be evil lately, but trust me, those people are idiots. Doing hard work, building, creating order, making the world a better place, that is what leads to happiness. When you make something of value, when you build, when you DO, when you self-improve, trust me, you will finally look back, see something you achieved, and have pride in it.
And that's how you become a man.
You want to become a man, not an adult. Stop with that BS mind set, that's your problem. Here.
Have you ever ran 50 miles? Or a proper marathon?
Hell, just WALK 50 miles without pause. I'm serious. Do it. If you can't, WORK AT IT. Run, every day until you puke or you can run 50 miles. If you can do it, you'll be an 'adult'. Why? Because everything you need to learn and achieve to actually RUN 50 miles is what you need to learn and do to BECOME AN ADULT. If you don't have the skills to run 50 miles, they you don't have the skills to be an adult.
You want to know how to be an adult? There you go. It is that simple. Walk 50 miles without taking a break. By the time you pull it off, you will have all the qualities to be a man. And as the years roll on, and you find yourself in your old age, thinking about your life, you can say, "I remember one time, I didn't think I could do anything, but I put my mind to run 50 miles, and it took a year, but I did it. That was the point in my life I realized I could do anything If I just put my mind to it."
But you won't.
You wont do it, because you don't have the mind set. You might even try and run, I dunno, quarter mile or something, but you're looking for the easy way. You want some sort of philosophical bullshit. My method is actual WORK. It would take up time from playing around and having fun. You want a link on the internet that will download the answer of adult into your brain, instead of figuring out that if you want to grow up, YOU NEED TO GROW UP.
And you will have to do it alone. Nobody to help you. Nobody to cheat off of. Nobody can run the miles for you. You, and you alone must do it and if you don't do it, nobody will hold you to task. Nobody will get on your ass. NO BODY WILL CARE IF YOU GIVE UP.
So why even try? Don't bother. Just do you job, hang out with your friends, drink a beer and play video games. Just be a child for the rest of your life. It's not like anyone else around you wants to grow up. Everyone else acts like a child. Just give up, give in, and go with the flow, man.
Of course... the only way to go with the flow is down hill.
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It has occurred to me that I was rude. I assumed you might be physically capable of running 50 miles, when you might actually be missing a foot or something. I apologize. That was wrong to assume.
You can also bicycle 50 miles. Or, perhaps you have no functional knees. In which case, I give you the fall back of, pick your favorate video game.
Now play it for 72 hours straight.
BTW, I'm not pulling this out of my ass. I've done the 50 mile walk. I've biked from Rochester to Syracuse. And I played a video game for 80 hours straight.
These are all feats of endurance. The act of pushing yourself past your limits. This is the test to prove yourself.
It starts small, and ends in the impossible.
